I don't understand what you are getting at by pointing to the fact that HCl dissociates. I'm aware that it does
So start writing reaction equations as net ionic.
My issue there is with the conjugate pairs I end up with..
HCl + KOH --> H2O + KCl
I suppose perhaps you don't like writing that HCl on the left because that's HCl(aq) and it's not explicitly stating that it's dissociated H+(aq) + Cl-(aq). And might suggest that it's not dissociated? For me HCl(aq) means H+(aq) + Cl-(aq). Just as KOH(aq) means K+(aq) + OH-(aq).
OH- <-- fine that's not a spectator ion
H+ <-- that's not a spectator ion
K+ <-- that's definitely a spectator ion
Cl- <-- i'm not sure but I think it is a spectator ion..
H+ <-- not a spectator ion
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H+ + OH- --> H2O
H+/BLANK, OH-/H2O
If I take Cl- as a spectator ion then I get a blank. in one of my conjugate pairs. And that seems problematic?
When you write "Sounds to me like you have learned earlier that KOH is a base and HCl is an acid, and you can't move ahead and understand it is only a simplification, " I am not sure if you are suggesting that K+ and Cl- are spectator ions. But if you are then, treating Cl- as such, I get that issue of H+/BLANK, OH-/H2O
I am unsure how to identify spectator ions in bronsted lowry acid base reactions.
Normally with net ionic equations , as I understand it, one identifies spectator ions by them being those that don't change in oxidation state.
But in these bronsted lowry acid base reactions, at least in examples i've seen, none of the atoms change in oxidation state. e.g.
H+ + OH- --> H2O <-- H is +1. O is 2-. No change in oxidation state in any of the atoms there. But none of those are spectator ions. So it opens the question of how to identify spectator ions in bronsted lowry acid base reactions.