When considering whether a compound is aromatic or not, you need to consider the total number of electrons over the total number of atoms in the extended pi system.
For example, cyclopentadiene is not aromatic. The 5th carbon atom is sp3, not part of the pi system, so there are four electrons in a four atom system - which isn't even cyclic. not aromatic.
The cyclopentadienly cation and cyclopentadienyl anion are a bit different. the hybridization of the 5th carbon atom changes to sp2, and now we have a cyclic pi system. but are they aromatic? the cation has 4 electrons over the 5 atom pi system - antiaromatic. the anion has 6 electrons over the 5 atom pi system - aromatic (think
ferrocene)
Similarly,
pyrrole can be analyzed for aromaticity. At first glance, it may appear similar to the neutral cyclopentadiene and might not be aromatic. But the nitrogen atom has a lone pair of electrons which contributes to the extended pi system. 6 electrons over 5 atoms - aromatic.
Thus, when dealing with the benzyllic cation we should keep 2 principles in mind. One is this concept of aromaticity - total number of electrons over the total number of atoms in the extended pi system. And the other is that when dealing with resonance, no single line structure accurately represents what the molecule looks like. The actual molecule is a weighted average of ALL possible resonance structures.
Benzyl chloride can be ionized to the benzyl cation. You are correct that several resonance structures can be drawn which move one double bond to the exocyclic position, leaving a positive charge at either the ortho or para positions. Let's consider aromaticity for this compound (not necessarily a single resonance structure, as it won't exist like that - rather as that weighted average). Over the entire cation, there are still 6 electrons, but unlike benzene the electrons are now extended over a 7 atom pi system. As far as aromaticity is concerned, the only part that is affected is the length of the pi system.
Thus, my analysis says the benzyllic cation is still aromatic. 6 electrons, 7 atom pi system = aromatic. Aromaticity, then, is not lost in the cation. The benzyllic carbon atom, the 2 ortho carbon atoms, and the para carbon atom all accept a partial positive charge, but there is still 6 electrons.
I don't have an answer for you about the 2nd part. Nothing immediately jumps out at me.