I am curious as to how one would know that POCl3 is exhibits resonance? That is to say, how do you know that it's simply not a single bonded molecule with 32 valence electrons, with Phosphorus having a formal charge of 1+? I understand that it is a resonance molecule with a 3 single bonds and a double bond to Oxygen also; with a formal charge on the P of 0. Is it just the fact that all period 3 and beyond molecules, if possible, exhibit resonance via their "d" orbitals, in combination with the fact that the most stable lewis structures contain atoms that have the lowest charge possible? I'm having trouble understanding how to realize that the double variety is a possibility and that it is also accepted as "best", as well as assigning a formal charge of 0...
Thanks