yeah I don't really know what your question is asking...but yes, a good way to remember that the arrow goes from the electrons to the atom/bond/etc is that you "take from the rich, give to the poor". (rich being electron rich clearly)
other than that Acid/Base is #1....
then its electronics, sterics, and lastly hydrogen bonding
my professor gave us a protocol he called "factors that govern chemical change"..it went
1. size
2. electronegativity
3. resonance
4. neighboring group effect
(thanks portmess!)