but isn't toluene normally the solvent of choice in the lit?
Yes, I have done a number of BW couplings in my time and the only solvent I have ever used is toluene, not that others can't be used, but toluene is usually the one to start with.
Can you provide additional details about your prep.
I usually carry such reactions out in anhydrous toluene. My prep go's something like this. In a glove box, weigh base (t-BuONa), catalyst (Pd2(dba)3) and haloarene (if solid) into a schlenck tube. I then remove from glove box with schlock tube stoppered with suba seal. I then add my aniline dissolved in anhydrous toluene (which has been degassed), place schlenk tube in oil bath (preheated, 100ºC) and finally add my ligand (P(t-Bu)3). Reactions are usually complete within minutes to an hour.
If you are using Pd2(dba)3, that could well be your problem, we have had a number of problems with this particular catalyst, depending on the source. Now, we (or at least I) try to buy from the same supplier and where possible request a particular batch that I know works well.
Hopefully that will get you started, if not post some more details and we'll see if we can help.
djt