I think you're overthinking it.
I appreciate the chemical reactivity difference, that's not what I mean by 'pairings' here.
We agree that for 2 stereocenters, there are 4 total stereoisomers, yes? (RR, RS, SR, SS).
From those 4, choose 2 (randomly RR and RS). What is their relationship? They're diastereomers.
Choose another 2 (randomly RS and SR). What is there relationship? They're enantiomers.
From these 4 stereoisomers, compare all possible pairings of two molecules. There are 6 such pairings: (RR RS) (RR SR) (RR SS) (RS SR) (RS SS) (SR SS). 2 of those pairings are enantiomers (RR SS), (RS SR). 4 of those pairings are diastereomers (RR RS) (RR SR) (RS SS) (SR SS). That's all we're doing here.
So, for 3 stereocenters, how many total pairings are there? How many of those pairings are enantiomers? how many of those pairings are diastereomers?
If I'm still not explaining it well, I do apologize. Perhaps someone else can phrase it differently to get my point across?