The take home lesson here is to be careful the way you write things and to re-read everything (twice!) carefully before you hit “post”. Because: I see that in my haste to write out a detailed response, I accidentally wrote out almost everything in that one paragraph completely backward! Wow, I should really be ashamed of myself. My only defense is that, even after doing this stuff for well over a decade now, it’s still easy to get thermodynamics screwed up if you aren’t really careful.
So, now that my tail is tucked firmly between my legs, please give me the opportunity to correct myself:
Forming any individual bond releases energy. You can see this easily in a Morse potential, which can be used to describe formation of a bond between two atoms as they approach. A bond represents a chemical potential well. High energy atoms meet, form a bond, and release energy. To break that bond requires energy, like lifting a heavy object out of a pit takes gravitational work. Standard heats of formation for most molecules are negative, which is akin to saying that forming molecules usually releases energy. It takes no great detective work to see this – if chemical bonds weren’t lower energy than individual atoms, there’d be no molecules.
And reactions (ignoring entropy again) tend to proceed toward molecules with more stable bonds, because they have deeper potential wells than less stable bonds.
When I said, “enthalpy impacts many chemical properties because it governs how much energy is required to form bonds, or how much energy is released when bonds break,” what I should have said was… well, switch “required” and “released”. Do note that you have to consider all bonds broken and formed during a reaction to get a full enthalpic picture. When you break some bonds, you form others. The overall enthalpy of the process is determined by the net energy gain (or loss) from the energy produced form each individual bond formed and from the energy consumed for each bond broken. (All intermolecular interactions formed and broken need to go into it as well, and things like ionization and so forth also have associated enthalpies.) If the net is positive, endothermic. If negative, exothermic. (At constant pressure!) And finally –
the net heat gained or lost from a reaction is different from the amount actually required to make a reaction go. Even forming strong, stable bonds (in molecules) usually requires an initial energy investment (activation energy) for an ultimate energy payout because typically you’ve got to break bonds to form new ones. If that investment isn’t available because the temperature is too low, then the reaction doesn’t go*, even if it is a favorable exothermic reaction. Kinetics and thermodynamics, remember!
I hope that clears up that bit of confusion. And I hope I didn’t make any new silly errors for which I will have to redeem myself.
*Well, it will go, the rate will just be slow. Even the most unfavorable reactions will EVENTUALLY go to "completion" (equilibrium) at nonzero temperatures if they are thermodynamically favorable, because probability is never strictly zero. Eventually the rate becomes so slow that it is "practically zero".