hmm.. delocalization of electrons is stabilizing? if we view the electron cloud as a spring system (analogous to einstein solids), then we could say that the resting point is the electron cloud in its normal position (no effect). But when we add something to this system such that the spring gets pulled toward that something and gets stretched (ie delocalized), doesn't this mean a potential energy now exists for the electron cloud getting 'stretched' so to speak? There is a competing energetic result taking place however, and that would be that since the interaction between the electron cloud and the "something" is attractive, the potential is lower.
so the act of stretching the spring increases the potential, but the fact that the force upon the spring is attractive, the potential decreases. which one wins? i think i'll regret asking this question because i need QM to model the situation... but basically my question is: is the result of these two competing effects such that the magnitude of the attractive potential is always larger such that the net potential is decreased?
off the side question: if two species are brought close together by attractive interactions, then the potential always decreases. but what if there was some chemical group on a carbon atom. and another species came and attached itself to the same carbon by kinetics or something.. and the original group and the new group repel each other; even if the bond angle between them was allowed to get distorted, the net potential would still increase right?