Single atoms, excepted for rare gases, are so reactive that they are extremely uncommon. Under normal conditions, they have already formed molecules. Chemical reactions use to happen between these already formed molecules (or ions too), at least if considering only the reactants and the products. Reaction intermediates, which can be far less abundant than the reactants and products, can be more exotic, like radicals.
The octet rule isn't the whole picture. Some molecules are less stable despite following the octet rule. Cl2 is such one, which a different theory called molecular orbitals explains nicely.
Some metallic solids are very stable, for instance gold, which forms no oxide with air. Others are not, like caesium which catches fire in air.