I'm not suprised you're having trouble, the question is criminally misleading in my opinion.
If I rewrite it (changes are in red) can you solve it now?
When 40.0 mL of 0.200 M HCl at 21.5°C is added to 40.0 mL of 0.200 M NaOH also at 21.5°C in a coffee-cup calorimeter, the temperature of the resulting solution rises to 22.8°C. Assume that the volumes are additive, the specific heat of the solution is 4.180 J g−1 °C−1 mol-1 and that the density of the solution is 1.00 g mL−1 Calculate the molar enthalpy change, ΔH, for the reaction:
HCl (aq) + NaOH (aq) → NaCl (aq) + H2O (l)
The answer is -54.3 kJ mol-1
Better?
The answer I get for the question as it was written is -435 J, but the molar enthalpy change (which the question did not ask for) is -54.3 kJ mol-1.