These are good and interesting comments. In my teaching, I had to think of how we learn. How does our brain work? I deduced that our brains are pattern matching machines. The original questioner likening learning organic chemistry to learning French had resonance with me. I recognized that was precisely how I learned French and organic chemistry. I also think it is how a dog learns to sit or a baby learns a language.
However, I do not like to apply rules in teaching organic chemistry. In my book, I describe it as using example based learning. Here is why. I suggest that substitution reactions can be described as bond breaking preceding bond formation in an SN1 reaction and bond formation preceding bond cleavage in an SN2 reaction. Those are the ideals in a description. The examples you will have to solve will be somewhere in between. On that continuum, it is difficult to proscribe rules and exceptions. However, I do feel that if a student knows some examples of SN1 and SN2 reactions, they can assess whether the example at hand is more similar to the examples they know. I believe this method enables students to consider the principles guiding a reaction.
Since I endorse an example based teaching method, I agree with Yeffer's comment on practice problems being daunting. Since learning is building the neural networks that will enable you to solve a problem, the problems must remain within the scope of the students ability to solve them. Using a baseball analogy, I was bemused to discover that the top professional baseball players practiced hitting off a tee to improve their swing. However, logic suggests practicing with success will be more beneficial than practicing with failure. I discovered I had my best results in my classes by changing to problems that student could do rather that ones they were uncertain of.
I had found my best results occurred by focussing on reaction mechanisms. I believe they are the 800 lb gorilla of organic chemistry. By doing so, I had been able to greatly improve my class performance on the ACS organic exam. If anyone is interested, you may learn about what I did in my classes or the book I used at
www.curvedarrowpress.com. There are also some example pages that you may print out and do. You will find that everyone can do the example problems at the first level. They increase in difficulty, but because they are the same problems, you can still solve them. Because they focus on the mechanism or logic of a reaction, they are intended to build the neural networks you need to solve other problems.