If you had elemental sodium placed inside a container of elemental nitrogen would there be a reaction
Yes, but less reactive lithium should be used.
Actually, and very surprising to many chemists, elemental sodium
cannot burn in nitrogen gas, whereas lithium can burn in nitrogen. Despite sodium being considered a more "reactive element", true nitride ions (N-3) are not very stable. It is not favorable for three extra electrons to occupy the smaller outer orbital of a nitrogen atom.
Lithium ions are slightly acidic and can covalently bond to nitrogen. Do some research of the crystal structure of lithium nitride.
One of the reasons why oxygen and nitrogen prefer to exist as diatomic elements is the repelling from the lone pairs.
With only two atoms bonded together, this gives the lone pairs more space. Other elements have few lone pairs, or a biger atomic orbital, which means more space for the lone pairs.