You do not need any special rules to decide which structures will have a significant contribution to the hybrid, and which structures will not. All you need to do is analyze the relative stabilities of the resonance contributing structures. Draw the structures and look for favors that might make a structure relatively stable, and look for factors that might make the structure unstable. A few ' rules of thumb ' that may not be always true are: 1. Greater the number of multiple bonds in a structure, more stable it is. 2. If negative charge resides on the more electronegative atom and positive charge on the more electropositive atom, it is stable, but if positive charge resides on the more electronegative atom, it becomes less stable. 3. Like charges cannot reside side by side. It'll have negligible to zero contribution. 4. A structure that has octet on all atoms is exceptionally stable. This is important. It is an important driving force for many rearrangements. 5. Separation of charges ("moving electrons") requires energy, and hence decreases stability. That is, charge separated structures are less stable. 6. A neutral structure is more stable than charge-seperated/electron moved. Hope this helps.