A few thoughts.
1. THF is likely a poor solvent for this system, you want a strongly chelating solvent that can expose the nucleophile. I see that you are going with DMF, which may be a good one.
2. I'd seriously think about PTC, especially with that known to be a method that's worked before. Try fluorene alkylation conditions (conc. aqueous KOH, toluene, alkyl halide, phase transfer catalyst, 100°C) first. The PTC I used was Aliquat 336 mostly, but CTAB or various others, or even Lysol, should work.