Thanks, Babcock_Hall!
I've just learned the word "ion", and this is how I make sense of it.
Okay, when oxygen is involved in an oxidation reaction we're quite often talking about
normal oxygen atoms (non-ions).
So, when oxygen and sodium react, then oxygen actually "
takes" electrons from sodium.
Both atoms "want" 8 electrons in the outer shell. When we look at the atoms below, why doesn't sodium "take" electrons from oxygen?
Oxygen, atomic number 8
Sodium, atomic number 11