In my experience, there are some general good practices that are similar to all small molecule crystallography, but otherwise the best method I've seen is essentially a brute force slog to find the best crystallizing conditions. Its a very good idea to run a wide variety of resolving agents (amines in your case) in a variety of solvents/solvent combo's. I think many major vendors actually sell plates for higher throughput screening of conditions (aldrich:https://www.sigmaaldrich.com/technical-documents/articles/chemfiles/facile-and-rapid-chiral0.html). Its not cheap, but not as expensive as buying all the bases yourself and screening them one by one.
To try to answer your questions:
Order of addition shouldn't matter because of the time frame you are working with.
For quick and dirty results you can analyze the mother-liquor to see if you get an appreciable ee of the remaining acid. More thorough (and necessary to fully qualify conditions) is to isolate the acid from both the mother-liquor and the crystal. I prefer chiral HPLC, but a polarimeter will work after you isolate your acid from each sample.
From my own experience, the more greasy solvents were too non-polar to keep the salt in solution, making it all crash out and I wouldn't get resolution.
Good luck!