I try to explain Hess' Law to you:
for example, a chemical reaction takes the route below:
eg. sodium + water
1. Na -> Na+ + e
2. H2O + e -> OH- + H-
3. H- + H2O ->H2 + OH-
overall: Na + 2H2O -> NaOH + OH-
but hess' law tell you, that regardless what the reaction pathway is, each hypothetical one computes the same value for change in enthalpy, so you can assume the reaction uses the most simple mechanism to achieve the products, and you can use that to calculate the delta H.
below is the simplest mechanism:
sodium + water
1. Na (s) -> Na (g) -> Na+(g) + e
2. H2O(l) -> H2O(g) -> 2H(g) + O(g)
3. 2H(g) -> H2(g)
4. O(g) + H(g) + e -> OH- (g)
5. Na+ + OH- -> NaOH (s)
these steps consist of the most fundemental steps, ie. all bonds in the reactants are broken and new bonds are form among the atoms in their elemental state to form the product, ie. delta H = BE(product) - BE(reactant) where BE: bond energy