IR is vibrational spectroscopy. Vibration is an acceleration and deceleration. (Like simple harmonic motion) Accelerating charges emit EM radiation. Likewise EM radiations can accelerate (vibrate) charges. So.. To absorb IR radiation there should be a dipole-moment in the molecule. So .. Cyanobenzene has net dipole-moment and diphenyl acetiline does not have. So cayanobenzene ir IR active and diphenyl acetiline gives very week IR signal.
Generally we can see the IR signal of terminal Alayne groups, but not internal Alayne groups.
In my experience, the CC stretching of internal alkynes show in the IR as well as the terminal ones, the difference of course is that terminal alkynes do have a C(sp)-H stretching, and internal alkynes don't.
As you correctly state, IR is a vibrational spectroscopy, but it is rather an interaction of the molecule dipole with the electromagnetic radiation what is observed, and there is no such thing as accelerations or decelerations...
And also, please consider that CO2 has a net dipole of zero, however a clear absorption is seen in the IR spectra at about 2.7, 4.3 and 15 µm:
http://science.widener.edu/svb/ftir/ir_co2.html