Aqua regia? And elemental sodium? This sounds very, very bad!
When we needed to quench sodium in our solvent stills in the lab, we did it by slowly adding isopropanol to the sodium mixture still in the solvent (usually THF), with very thorough stirring and careful temperature control. Sometimes the surface of the sodium had been somewhat passivated by the accumulation of sodium salts, but if the stirring was strong enough, that layer could be broken down and the sodium underneath would react. Once all the sodium had been oxidized and no more hydrogen was being generated, water was added carefully to dissolve all the salts, and the aqueous solution could be neutralized and disposed of.