I'm not sure exactly what you are asking, but it sounds like you are trying to put the cart before the horse. The molecular orbital which is stabilizing is called the "bonding" orbital, precisely because it is stabilizing - having electrons in the bonding orbital rather than in the separate atomic orbitals is more stable, or there wouldn't be a bond between the two. The molecular orbital which is destabilizing is called the "anti-bonding" orbital precisely because it is de-stabilizing - putting electrons into that orbital reduces that strength of the bond, until it becomes more stable for the atoms to be separate and the bond no longer exists.
So the proof of Bonding being stabilizing, is simply that the stabilizing MO is called the bonding orbital.
Now if you are actually looking for proof that the particular version of the mathematical construct we use to combine two atomic orbitals to form two molecular orbitals, one of which is stabilized and one de-stabilized relative to the two atomic orbitals, that becomes a different question.