Well, the points made by teachers when they get philosophical like that (I mean, unless they are Philosophy professors) they're trying to get you to realize that what you're seeing is an abstraction of what is really there. For example, often in textbooks there are the electron micrographs that show the cell membrane as a double dark line. And everyone goes, 'A-ha, lipid bilayer.' But really, the polar heads have attracted more of the heavy metal contrast agent, and the lipid parts attract less. The dark line is osmium clumps, not the actual membrane components.