@djvan
Re: hoping electronegativity holds true
Electronegativity will not hold true, that is why you will find the many explanations trying to overcome the paradoxes. I probably cannot succeed in explaining electronegativity in a short post, but Pauling was trying to offer an explanation for the energy difference between reactants and products. He proposed bonds had ionic and covalent properties and the energy difference between elements with covalent bonds and their products must be due to the products having ionic character in their bonds. Unfortunately, this premise is not correct, but it is also complicated to realize this.
I see you have another post asking about thermochemistry. We need to use it here as well. Typically, the heats of reactions are measured from their elements and the elements are considered as starting at zero energy. Therefore, the formation of hydrogen fluoride releases energy in its formation, so its bonds stronger than the elements. However, stronger is a relative term. If the reactions are assumed to give products in which the products are more stable and hence at zero energy, then you would conclude fluorine is the most reactive element. This is one part of the puzzle.
If you look at the energy of a Born-Haber cycle, the ionization of a lithium or sodium is endothermic. By difference, the lattice energy is very large. This would be consistent with a strong attraction of the ions for one another. However, we must remember this is a gas phase reaction. If you add sodium chloride to water (or ice), the heat of solvation is small. Water must also break the bonds in that process. So we might ask whether lattice energy is truly telling us how strong a bond is. If you subtract the solvation energy from the heat of formation, and assume the reaction of sodium and chlorine were performed in water, then by Hess's Law, the redox energy should balance the energy difference. Now, you cannot perform the redox reaction in water because lithium or sodium will react with water in a very exothermic reaction rather than reacting with chlorine. I was not able to find the energetics of the reaction of either metal with water except that it is very high energy. This is another part of the puzzle.
You may find many that mistake homolytic bond energies in trying to estimate heterolytic bond strengths. They are different. However, the assumption that bonds have ionic contributions leaves one with predicting that compounds like sodium chloride or lithium fluoride have strong bonds because the energy differences are the greatest, makes ionic contributions to be the greatest contributor. If so, ions should be more attractive than ions to neutrals compounds. If ions had a strong attraction for each other, NaOH, HCl, and NaCl should have the same properties. They do not. Hydroxide is more strongly attracted to the protons of neutral water than to sodium ions. HCl is more strongly attracted to the electrons of water than to ionic chlorides. I argue acidity is virtually the best measure of heterolytic bond strength. If you dissolve NaCl in water, I don't know the ratio of [NaCl] to [Na+] + [Cl-]. If you dissolve an acid in water, the pH tells you the ratio of ionized to nonionized. HI is a strongly ionic in water and HF is not.
The metal hydrides are notorious because their bonds are weaker than predicted by the energy of the reactants. This in addition to all of the other reasons should have killed Pauling's theory of ionic attraction. I found none of this good science, except as a theory too good to not be true. It is in virtually every chemistry book.
Now that you are in organic chemistry and you go into the lab, electronegativity breaks down. Iodide is a much better leaving group than fluoride, HF is a weak acid, carbon is an electron donor, etc. I taught it too. I used all of the arguments in the later chapters that contradicted electronegativity theory. I did one other thing, I read Pauling's papers. In my classes, I told students that electron withdrawing order was I>Br>Cl>>F, S>O, H>C. Electron withdrawing was what they would find in the lab and electronegativity was what they would find on the tests.
I applaud you for looking at the pKa tables for acids and trying to discover what the data teaches you. This is the correct way to discover chemical properties. I have learned much by looking at reaction rates, products, etc. It is possible that we may draw incorrect conclusions, but we must be careful. We do not want to believe the bird is sleeping in the Monty Python skit.